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Why Don't You
JUST LEAVE?

Experience a dаy in the life of a financial abuse victim.

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You're a 33-year-old stay-at-home-mom, married since the summer after college. In the past few years, stress at work has pushed your husband's temper from jealous to controlling to physical. You no longer feel safe in your own home.

What will you do?

Your husband returns and announces he's putting you on an allowance, insisting he no longer trusts you to spend his money. The allowance barely gives you enough to buy baby food and diapers.

Do you want to leave?

The new allowance improves his mood for awhile, so you buy a new lipstick to look nice for him. When he finds the receipt, he flies into a rage over the cost and accuses you of buying it for other men. It escalates until he shoves you into the wall and leaves for the night. You are scared he will hurt you, or worse, the baby.

What will you do?

Your husband returns after two days, explaining that he never would've pushed you if he hadn't thought you were cheating. Now he needs you to check in with him hourly every time you leave the house. He swears if he ever catches you with another man, he'll kill you both. Even though you aren't cheating, now you're scared for your safety and the safety of your kids.

Will you leave?

Leaving a financially abusive relationship is not easy. Whether you're in an abusive relationship, a healthy relationship or single, it's important that you have a basic understanding of financial literacy and control over your finances so you're able to leave a situation like this one. Consider taking these 4 steps to achieve financial independence:

Where will you go?

You moved a few hours away for your husband’s new job. Now you have to take a bus to visit family which means using your hidden cash.

Your husband has already discovered your hiding spot and taken all of the cash. You know this means a much bigger fight is coming.

Where will you go?

You have no access to cash and he has ruined your credit by opening cards in your name and never paying on them. You won’t be able to check into a hotel without a credit card.

What will you do?

What will you do?

A hotel will require a credit card to check in. Your husband ruined your credit by opening several cards in your name and never paying on them. Now it will be years before you can get approved for credit again.

Where will you go?

Lack of financial resources and knowledge is one of the main reasons why a victim will stay or return to an abusive relationship. On average, survivors return to their abusers seven times before they leave for good.

What will you do?

Making the choice to leave is not easy. By going to a shelter, now you are getting the help you need to rebuild your life.

Local organizations help victims find safe housing and help them achieve financial independence to rebuild their lives.

The financial empowerment services they offer—made possible with support from The Allstate Foundation—have propelled more than 1.7 million victims on the path to safety and security.

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